"I fear loving you. I don’t know if I should fall so deep, because I don’t know if you will love me tomorrow, or next week or next month or if you will just, walk away. I feel like I’m always on my toes, always tiptoeing across your mind, across your heart so I don’t disturb you, and overwhelm you. I am always pretending I’m not anxious in front of you. But I am, you don’t understand! I don’t want you to go, I’m scared … I want you to be scared with me and tell me it’s okay."
"The typical response to pain, fear and judgement is to close our heart. We go in to protection mode, self-preserving and ensuring any perceived threat is kept at bay. This happens when we believe the illusion that fear is real. When we think someone can hurt us or take something from us. We start making our love conditional again. We use our love as currency to value or de-value ourselves or another, rather than letting it flow freely."
"There are many things that can keep you in a relationship. Fear of being alone. Fear of disrupting the arrangement of your life. A decision to settle for something that’s okay, because you don’t know if you can get any better. Or maybe there’s the irrational belief that it will get better, even if you know he won’t change."
"making a decision was only the beginning of things. When someone makes a decision, he is really diving into a strong current that will carry him to places he had never dreamed of when he first made the decision."